Church isn't supposed to be a cheap country club.
Church isn't supposed to be a place you go to make business connections, have social interactions with friends, or take a break from your work. Church is supposed to be a place you go to be coached, mentored, apprenticed, in being a Christian, by the pastor.
You should choose your church the way you choose a math tutor, tennis instructor, or golf teacher for your children, or the way you choose a trainer for yourself, not the way you choose a resort for a family vacation.
For a church attender to say, "I don't need to be discipled by the pastor, I'm a disciple of Jesus"' is exactly like a 5th grade basketballer saying,"I don't need a coach, John Wooden is my coach."
If you're not there to be apprenticed, discipled, to the pastor, then you need to find a pastor you do want to be apprenticed to, because everything else is just religous time wasting.